A Canada-based Nigerian woman, Ada, has spoken out after facing criticism over her decision to leave her marriage with her four children and raise them on her own.
In a Facebook post shared on Sunday, December 21, 2025, the mother of four revealed that since leaving her marriage, she has been repeatedly told she should have left the children behind or sent them back to Nigeria to live with their father.
Ada alleged that all attempts to get her estranged husband to take responsibility for the children have failed. According to her, he ignored letters requesting financial support, while members of his family also failed to respond.
She maintained that leaving her children with their father was never an option, stressing that she exited the marriage to protect them.
“January 4th makes it one full year since I left my marriage with my children,” she wrote.
“Since then, people keep saying, ‘You shouldn’t be taking care of those kids alone,’ ‘Their father should be providing,’ ‘Why didn’t you leave them with him?’ and ‘Why don’t you send them back to Nigeria?’”
She dismissed those suggestions outright, insisting that returning the children to their father or to Nigeria would expose them to the very situation she fled.
“Yes, their father should be providing. I agree,” she said. “That’s why I wrote him a letter asking for financial support. He read it and ignored it. He said nothing. His family said nothing. Till today, silence.”
Questioning the practicality of public advice, Ada asked critics what they truly expected her to do.
“Drop my children on the main road and go and live my life? Hand them over to someone who has chosen to be absent? Return them to a situation I left to protect them?” she queried.
She noted that single parenting was not a casual decision but a last resort after failed communication and abandoned responsibility.
“This is a sincere question,” she added. “How do you make a man who has chosen to be a deadbeat suddenly become involved in his children’s lives?”
Ada concluded that she did not choose to raise her children alone but was left with no safe alternative, stating that she would continue prioritising her children over public opinion.
“It’s four days to Christmas, and I decided to speak out, hoping I might get help,” she wrote
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